How 2 put new life and meaning into your marriage/partnership

.... How 2 put new life and meaning into your marriage/partnership - committed & loving parents = committed & loving children - The surprising secret is that this doesn't have to take any extra time in your already busy schedule. Just a change in attitude plus a committed focus can yield a stronger, happier marriage.

So here’s my challenge to you. Read the following suggestions and apply them in your marriage/relationship for the next 30 days. Then evaluate your marriage/­relationship. I guarantee you’ll both be happier:
Look for the good, overlook the bad: You married this person for many good reasons. Your partner has many wonderful qualities. Your first step in adding sizzle to your marriage is to look for the good and overlook the bad.
Make it a habit to ignore the little
annoying things — dirty socks on the floor, a day-old coffee cup on the counter, worn out flannel pajamas, an inelegant burp at the dinner table — and. choose instead to search for those things that make you smile: the way he rolls on the floor when playing with the kids; the fact that she made your favorite cookies,the peace in knowing someone so well that you can wear your worn out flannels or burp at the table.
Give two compliments every day: Now that you've committed to seeing the good in your partner, it’s time to say it!
This is a golden key to your mate’s heart. Our world is so full of negative input, and we so rarely get compliments from other people. When we do get a compliment, it not only makes us feel great about ourselves, it actually makes us feel great about the person giving the compliment! Think about it! When your partner says, “You’re the best. I’m so glad I married you.” It not only makes you feel loved, it makes you feel more loving.
Compliments are easy to give, take such a little bit of time, and they’re free.

Compliments are powerful; you just have to make the effort to say them. Anything works: “Dinner was great, you make my favorite sauce.” “Thanks for picking up the cleaning. It was very thoughtful, you saved me a trip.” “That sweater looks great on you.
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Play nice: That may sound funny to you, but think about it. How many times do you see, or experience, partners treating each other in impolite, harsh ways that they’d never even treat a friend? Sometimes we take our partners for granted and unintentionally displayrudeness. As the saying goes, if you have a choice between being right and being nice, just choose to be nice. Or to put this in the wise words of Bambi’s friend Thumper, the bunny rabbit – “If you can’t say something nice don’t say anything at all.”

Pick your battles: How often have you heard this advice about parenting? This is great advice for child rearing—and it’s great advice to follow in your marriage as well. In any human relationship there will be disagreement and conflict.
The key here is to decide which issues are worth pursuing and which are better off ignored. By doing this, you’ll find much less negative energy between you.
From now on, anytime you feel annoyed, take a minute to examine the issue at hand, and ask yourself a few questions. “How important is this?” “Is this worth picking a fight over?” “What would be the benefit of choosing this battle versus letting it go?”

The 60 second cuddle: You can often identify a newly married couple just by how much they touch each other —holding hands, sitting close, touching arms, kissing — just as you can spot an “oddly-married” couple by how little they touch. Mothers, in particular, often have less need for physical contact with their partners because their babies and young children provide so much opportunity for touch and cuddling that day’s end finds them “touched fulfilled”

So here’s a simple reminder: make the effort to touch your spouse more often. A pat, a hug, a kiss, and a shoulder massage – the good feeling it produces for both of you far outweighs the effort.

Here’s the deal: Whenever you’ve been apart make it a rule that you will take just 60 seconds to cuddle, touch and connect. This can be addictive! If you follow this advice soon you’ll find yourselves touching each other more often, and increasing the romantic aspect of your relationship.

Spend more time talking to and listening to your partner: I don’t mean, “Remember to pick up the kids from soccer.” Or “I have a PTA meeting tonight.” Rather, get into the habit of sharing your thoughts about what you read in the paper, what you watch on TV, your hopes, your dreams, your concerns. Take a special interest in those things that your spouse is interested in and ask questions. And then listen to the answers.

Spend time with your spouse: It can be very difficult for your marriage to thrive if you spend all your time being “Mommy” and “Daddy”. You need to spend regular time as “Husband” and “Wife”. This doesn’t mean you have to take a two-week vacation in Hawaii. (Although that might be nice, too!) Just take small daily snippets of time when you can enjoy uninterrupted conversation, or even just quiet companionship, without a baby on your hip, a child tugging your shirtsleeves or a teenager begging for the car keys. A daily morning walk around the block or a shared cup of tea after all the children are in bed might work wonders to re-connect you to each other. And yes, it’s quite fine to talk about your children when you’re spending your time together, because, after all, your children are one of the most important connections you have in your relationship.

Make ME time & allow HIM/HER time: Time-out doses are not only for toddlers, it works well for mom & dad too. Remember, you need time on your own to rejuvenate, refresh and revitalize your feelings for each other. Make it part of your routine to have a evening for mom and a evening for dad EVERY WEEK. That night you do what you enjoy doing. For him it might be playing volleyball on the beach with his buddies and a beer afterwards and for her it might be a visit to the bookshop & a special coffee or a movie with a friend. That night the other partner takes care of all the duties at home.

Don’t name, blame or shame: I'm sure that makes perfect sense, When you and your spouse regularly connect in a way that nurtures your relationship, you may find a renewed love between you, as well as a refreshed vigor that will allow you to be a better, more loving parent. You owe it to yourself — and to your kids — to nurture your relationship.

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The Story of a Nigerian Boy

PARENTS Were Killed in Kaduna Riots of 2002.

This is the story of a young boy whose parents were murdered during 2002 riots in Kaduna. He was aged 11 years at the time. His parents, Mr Austine and Mrs Josephine Moses, were missionaries until they met their untimely death. The boy left his house to play football but returned home to see that all his parents had laboured for had been razed down and he would never see his mother and father again.

He was taken to London by his uncle almost immediately after the incident. While in London, he began deploying his football skills. Though his parents were murdered, his passion for football was never killed. He played football for his school and later for a local Tandrige League club until Crystal Palace FC approached him. From that point, his career progressed in leaps and bounds.
This player played for England's under 16, 17, 19 and 21 teams between 2005 and 2010 scoring 11 goals for England during this period. He later moved to Wigan Athletic and now he plays for Chelsea. 

This footballer is called VICTOR MOSES.
His story is a touching one, We share his pains. We also share his courage. He had a choice not to step into Nigeria again but he didn't take that option. When the call to serve his fatherland came, Moses dumped England and embraced Nigeria. That is patriotism!

Today, we see a Victor Moses bringing joy to every Nigerian including those who may have inspired his parent's death... That is Love!

On Sunday, Moses would stand for the National Anthem and pledge allegiance to a country that couldn't defend his parents. That is faith!

Moses would deliver the "African Cup of Nations" trophy to Nigeria not minding what had happened in the past. That is forgiveness! 

Moses rose through bitterness and despair to the limelight of hope and courage.
He never gave up on his country. He persevered. That is purpose!
If someone like Victor Moses, despite the bitter past, Never gave up on Nigeria, then why should we? ONE NIGERIA, ONE LOVE!!!

- Wole StreetJournal (For Hope For Nigeria).

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It's a new scam, the paper is laced with drugs, you'll pass out so they can rob you or do worse things to you. Please forward to all friends and family..save a soul.

what in the world do I do all day?

 

A man came home from work and found his 5 children outside, still in their pajamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and wrappers strewn around garden, The door of his wife's car was open, as was the front door to the house and no sign of the dog, walking in the door, he found ...an even bigger mess. 

A lamp had been knocked over, the throw rug was against one wall, In the front room the TV was on loudly with the cartoon channel, the family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing. In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, breakfast food was spilled on the counter, the fridge door was open wide, dog food was spilled on the floor, a broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door. He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his wife. He was worried she might be ill, or that something serious had happened. He was met with a small trickle of water as it made its way out the bathroom door. 

As he peered inside he found wet towels, scummy soap and more toys strewn over the floor. Miles of toilet paper lay in a heap and toothpaste had been smeared over the mirror and walls. As he rushed to the bedroom, he found his wife still curled up in the bed in her pajamas, reading a novel... She looked up at him, smiled and asked how his day went. He looked at her bewildered and asked, 'What happened here today?' She again smiled and answered, 'You know every day when you come home from work and you ask me what in the world do I do all day?...

''Yes," was his incredulous reply..

She answered, 'Well, today I didn't do it.'

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MM News-Letter; for 2012 ending

e-Magic Home of Eduinfotainment...charity, tourism & counselling

Friend on Facebook Forward to a Friend   Quote to Note “.....There is no happiness except in the realization that we have accomplished something” Henry Ford About MagicMates MagicMates is an internet based community focused on promoting education, economic empowerment, productive networking, tourism & charity. MagicMates' goal is to make you smile…. to say the least. Your being here as one of t the mates is what makes us Magical. MagicMates Pool Party/Get-together 2012 On December 15, 2012, Magicmates hooked up at the Ikeja Airpot Hotel to celebrate and wind down after the stress and stressors of the year. It was a great time as mates were treated to great food, suya, drinks of all sort, pool ball match and some few tutorials. About 20 mates and friends were present at the event and it was a time we will not forget soon. A fun shot from the pool party. For more pictures click here PROGRAMMES Magicmates Charity Visit to SOS Children's Village, Isolo Lagos. On June 23, 2012, as part of our give back to community programmes, MagicMates in conjuction with the management of the SOS children's village, Isolo Lagos, organized a charity event focused on integrating children into social activities and education. The event was carried it out as part of the activities of the SOS Founder's day (The birthdate of the founder Hermaign Gmeiner). At the event, MagicMates treated the children to Good Music, Quiz, Games, Dance, Bouncing castle, Candy floss and face painting and Food & Drinks. MagicMates further produced exercise books to assist in the education processes of the SOS children. A sample of the exercise books produced by MagicMates for the SOS children New Management on MagicMates The group announced the new management team of MagicMates and they are referred to as the Magicmates council. The selected persons will be in charge of making decisions and regulating the affairs of the group. It is important to note that it is a position of service and not for remuneration of any sort. Meet the Council 1. Chidimma Amaechi 2. Ojosipe Abimbola 3. Adebisi Fiyinfoluwa 4. Dedayo Deyinka 5. Fetuga Olumide. Success Story The first Magic Couple Mr and Mrs Stephen Adelanwa. It started off as a joke and competition for the beauty personified then Ms. Ify Nzekwe whose charm and persona was irresistible in the group. Stephen Adelanwa joined the group way after Ify had been active and had caught the eyes of some of the guys in the group. Sometimes during chat in the group chatroom, Ify was actually declared a no-go area but the smart dedicated and lovable Steve would not take a beaten as he commenced his powerful line delivery behind the scenes of the group. In no distant time, profile pictures were swapped and there was a huge confusion in the chatroom as to who was Stephen and who was Ify. To cut it short, Ify and stephen became joined together first on MagicMates and finally in Matrimony on October 31st, 2012. The cream of the crop is, this Magic couple have been blessed with a healthy baby girl recently. So its not just eduinfotainment people, mingling and courting is allowed. We are on the look out for more Magic couples. Courtesy:  Adebisi Fiyinfoluwa for MagicMates